One who achieves merit but departs from benevolence and righteousness will immediately be doubted; one who commits faults but does not lose the people’s trust will surely be believed. Therefore benevolence and righteousness are the constant guide of affairs, and the highest principle under Heaven.

- by Wenzi

静坐常思己过，闲谈莫论人非。” ” -- 《围炉夜话》【注2】
“When sitting quietly, reflect on your own faults; in casual talk, do not comment on the faults of others.”

责人之心责己，爱己之心爱人。” -- 《围炉夜话》

Use the heart you use to judge others to judge yourself; use the heart you use to love yourself to love others. --《Night Talks by the Hearth》